FRAC is starting with a new series of posts – Holistic Care. We feel that what we eat is not the only food for soul. What we see, feel, speak, hear, touch ; everything is food for soul. Thus, we all require a holistic care to excel in life.
In today’s edition, we speak on – “ MAKING COMMUNICATION EFFECTIVE – THROUGH HARMONY AND POSITIVITY“
THE PRINCIPLES OF CONVERSATION
The style of speech should be devoid of rise and fall in pitch. In fact, it should be like the divine current, flowing evenly since the beginning of creation. Innumerable are its benefits, beyond the possibility of narration. This is a philosophy, that when the flow of conversation proceeds in such a manner, there develops a state of harmony between the two who are communicating with each other. This results in effectiveness: whatever is spoken touches the hearts of persons. In other words, a sort of positive relationship is created with effectiveness. While communicating in this manner, only those words will be flowing out during conversations which are intended and are right. The technique for achieving this consists first of all in attempting to remove the rise and fall in the voice while talking, which is also called sharpness. This flow of speech will go on acquiring harmony to the extent that such a reduction is achieved progressively. ‘Sharpness’ does not imply only anger, which is very gross. The flow of speech should not carry any kind of weight in it. An illustration of this is a current of still air. This is very difficult to achieve, but everything is possible through sustained effort and courage.
BALANCED CONDITION OF THE MIND
The balanced condition of mind is an expression of the right attitude of man in all his activities, under varied circumstances. In a broad sense, it is the reflection of one’s character. It has a deep impact and a favorable influence on people who are associated with such a person. It reveals itself in conversation, serious and long or light and short, which is devoid of excitement or emotional outburst; devoid of a rapid, short-tempered and moody reaction, but a prompt, methodical and civil expression of one’s own self. It is soft, cultured and smooth like the harmonious descent of divine grace. The pure heart pours itself forth naturally with nobility, magnanimity and love. It leaves an impression immediately and it progressively makes deep inroads into and establishes itself in the minds of all.
The voice may be modulated to avoid a high pitch or any variation of the tone, because that goes with anger and anger is a poison to spirituality. If a nasty and short temper is avoided, if the evil of anger is overcome, there is scope for the attainment of the balanced condition of mind. This frailty of man leads to loss of self-respect and individuality and results in unhappiness. It restrains the flow of divine grace. The greater the control over this attitude, the freer and more bounteous is the celestial gift. It is a pity that this important and essential principle of the use of the tongue in the inevitable and constant activity of man is not only overlooked but also neglected. It is no doubt very difficult to control the mind.
NATURE OF SPEECH
- He whose tongue is polite, civilized and cultured, has a large heart, pure and noble, and thus has wide sway over the minds of others. But equivocation is not to be encouraged.
- A civil tongue is a prerequisite to achieve the goal of human life.
- A cultured tongue rules the kingdom of the heart.
- A polished tongue in discourse or conversation influences humanity and reigns supreme.
Adapted from Shri Ram Chandra’s article on the Principles of Conversation
Shri Ram Chandra Mission